Tagged: Child

After Newton: Little Victims

Sandy Hook was an absolute tragedy. There is no denying that. Particularly to see such amazing little boys and girls lose their lives before they even had a chance to start them is something that is probably so hard for any of us to quite put into words. I came across a poem recently, and I do not wish to criticize, but I had a reaction to it. It was the Newton children looking down from heaven, and assuring their parents they were doing just fine, better off where they are now, and telling their parents not to worry. I had a reaction because to me, it felt like trying to sweeten up a tragedy. When a little kid spends their last several breaths in absolute horror, and they die before ever even knowing what puberty even is, or what it is like to go to their first dance… I just do not know how such a thing can ever be sweetened.

AD/HD Son Telling AD/HD Mom a Knock-Knock Joke

AD/HD son telling AD/HD Mom a knock-knock joke:

AD/HD Son: Knock knock

AD/HD Mom: Who’s there?

AD/HD Son: Winnie

AD/HD Mom: Winnie who?

AD/HD Son: Winnie the Pooh

AD/HD Mom: Winnie the Pooh who?

AD/HD Son: Huh?

AD/HD Mom: What?

AD/HD Son: I’m so confused!

AD/HD Mom: Me too! 

Yes. I live with this everyday. It is never boring! 🙂

Cephalopod Motherhood: My Wife Rocks

Octopus

I have previously discussed that my wife and I are trying to lose some weight and get healthier. So on Tuesday and Thursday mornings, she goes to the gym, while I get the wee ones ready for school. This last Tuesday was my first time as the deck officer while she was at the YMCA. Trying to get five kids together, fed, ready to go to school, and relatively happy is like trying to stuff a live, angry octopus into a small Ziploc bag.

“I don’t know where you left shoe is, why wasn’t it by the right shoe?”

“Well you can’t go to school without pants, so you are just going to have to find some.”

“No honey, they are not my shoes, I have no idea where they are.”

“Yes, you have to eat breakfast, what kind of question is that?”

“Do you do this to your mom too?”

“Wait, didn’t you already have the right shoe before? So you have found the left shoe but cannot remember where you put the right shoe that you already had before?”

“Who gave the baby markers?”

“What do you mean you don’t have any more money left in your lunch account? Why are you just telling me this now?”

“What do you mean those shoes do not fit anymore, then why did we spend all #@&*$@ morning looking for the other one then?!?!?”

“You just wait til your mother gets home!!”

 

Hats off to you honey, you do it every morning!

A Memory of Kindergarten: Chocolates, Santa, and All the Good Things

This post is a part of the Daily Prompt.

I was born in a small town in Pennsylvania near Pittsburgh, where the major industries were once coal mining and manufacturing steel. Before I was born, the unions and the factories had their arguments, and the world moved on from their heavy reliance on the area’s coal and steel. All that exists in the area now is the service industry. The belief that mills and mines will reopen has long since moved on to a passive anticipation that something great will happen someday though no one knows what that thing will be or what to do to make it happen.

I was five-years-old, and oblivious to the collective oppression that penetrated all the adults deep into their bones. I don’t remember much of my early childhood days, so it is surprising to me that I remember this time. I am not sure if we were living there temporarily, or if we were just on an extended visit. My parents had packed trash bags full of clothes and snuck off in the night with me when I was just two, three years prior. I am not sure what pulled them back to the place and the people they had tried to leave behind.

I went to Kindergarten, and I believe it was my first day. It must have been close to the holidays, because Santa visited our classroom. He brought with him a red sack full of childhood wonderment, holiday cheer, and boxes of chocolates. I don’t know if someone influenced me, but I remember being extremely excited that these were large, whole boxes of chocolates being handed out. Not the samplers with two or four chocolate, mind you. A whole big box full of confectionery treasures. I could not wait to get the chocolates home and share them with my uncle who was a year younger than me and not yet in Kindergarten, as well as my mother and grandmother.

I remember sitting on the steps, in my grandmother’s home. There was a small market across the street that sold Swedish Fishes that I sometimes had enough pennies to splurge on and pizzas that my mom sometimes had enough pennies to splurge on. There was a shower in the basement that smelled of must, which still gives me a nostalgic feeling that I cannot quite describe, related to the excitement of being able to shower in the wide open basement. There I was, wet, naked and alone, in the wide open basement used for storage and laundry, with a spigot that probably just hung from the pipes in the low ceiling and yet somehow I loved it. I remember those showers with a fondness that I can’t really put into words, and perhaps will never feel again. Similar musty smells and the feel of cold cement on my bare feet still bring a certain joy.

As I sat on the steps in my grandmother’s house. I told my uncle what he could expect when he started Kindergarten. I was excited to share my candies and all the wisdom I had gleaned from a day spent in Kindergarten. I don’t remember why my first day in Kindergarten came so late in the year that Santa was a timely sight. I don’t remember what brought my mom back to her family, after she had snuck away before. I don’t remember what trials and tribulations my parents were facing that pushed them to move around once more, after my dad decided to re-enlist in the Navy after having been discharged previously and vowing never to return. Most of all, I cannot even comprehend why this memory was so important to me that it has stayed with me all these years, when so many memories from my childhood have faded.

If I were too look at my life now, I could say that there I was, taking care of others as I always do, even to my detriment. I gave my candy away, and felt responsible to help my uncle understand kindergarten. My grandmother was always having troubles, and I am sure my parents were having troubles, and it has always been my responsibility to take on the burdens of others.

Why is it that when I look at my life now, all I can see are those burdens? I give so much of myself that sometimes I am not sure there will be any of me left. I stress about the commitments I have to other people and my family. I try to keep everyone else happy, and my happiness comes last. I only have time for fun after I have taken care of all of my responsibilities. I am negative toward myself, too anxious, unable to have fun, overworked, under-assertive and probably a number of other negative things I could easily come up with.

Why do I see the traits that I have now as so negative, but when I look back on my childhood I see those same traits in a much more positive light? What do I need to do to once again find the wonderment in having the entire musty basement for my shower or such passionate excitement from a box of chocolates so strong that it is worth remembering decades later? I hope we all find the answer to that.